NORTHSHORE CHURCH OF CHRIST

Simon, a Pharisee, invited Jesus to his house. There he was, sharing his table with this great Rabbi (and perhaps other Jews of significance and notoriety), when some random woman of the city (a dirty, rotten sinner, at that) came in with a flask of alabaster ointment. What a scene that must have been! Why would such a woman interrupt their meal. The riffraff were welcome to stand at the windows and hang around to hear the men converse at the big-boy table, but she dared to come in and even touch this Rabbi.

Her tears cascaded over Jesus’ feet, and she wiped them away with her hair. Why did she use her hair? Why not her skirt or a towel? That seems rather personal. Then she poured some of that alabaster oil on his feet. How odd, right?

I’ve never had anyone, let alone a random woman, come mess with my feet before—not while I was eating nor at any other time. It would make me uncomfortable. And if I knew the woman grabbing my feet were also a woman of the night or of some such unsavory occupation, that would increase my anxiety and concern. What would people think of me? What business would she have coming so near and being so bold?

Simon had these sorts of thoughts. Why would this great Rabbi allow her to touch him, especially knowing what kind of a sinner she was?

Jesus had some words for Simon. He told him about two debtors, one who owed 500 denarii and another who owed 50 to the same moneylender. The moneylender forgave both debts, so Jesus’ question was, “Now which of them will love him more?” Simon knew, “The one, I suppose, for whom he cancelled the larger debt.” Correct.

Then Jesus dropped a bomb on Simon. “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment.”

Not only did Jesus praise the woman, He pointed out the lack of hospitality Simon had shown him. It was basic hospitality for a Jew to wash the feet of those whom he invited to his house. To not offer a foot washing was almost to say, “You’re not worth it.” On the other hand, nothing was expected of this woman. She wasn’t expected to show hospitality, yet she poured out her gifts—what she had—to the Lord. Apparently, she did not feel right touching Jesus’ head, but she lowered herself to touch his feet.

Simon, a leader of the Jews, did not identify himself as a sinner, of needing forgiveness, or of needing Jesus. In fact, he probably had invited Jesus to demonstrate his magnanimity and score a few political points.

The woman knew she was a sinner (probably was often told and treated as such), so she came to Jesus humbly in pennant posture. She asked nothing, expected nothing, bringing a gift to bless this great man.

The point of Jesus’ parable is that she loved him more because she had such a realistic view of her sins, which were many, and she received Jesus, believing what he preached. Simon did not love Jesus much because he had an unrealistic accounting of his sins, which also were many, and he did not receive Jesus even when he had the perfect opportunity.

“Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven,” Jesus said, “for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” He said to the woman, “Your sins are forgiven,” and then, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”

Sweeter words she never heard! To the one who understands the depths of his or her sin and goes to Jesus, that one will receive his love and forgiveness.

But to the one who just invites Jesus into his house from time to time to hang out with everyone else, that one does not know the Lord. He will not receive forgiveness but should expect the Lord’s judgment on the last day.

Know your sins. Receive Jesus like the humble, contrite, worshipful woman.

Here is the last in a series of dirty clothes Paul instructs Christians to take off and clean clothes to put on in their place, and this one is a doozy. He began this list in Ephesians 4.25, and we have now come to Ephesians 4.31–32:

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Take Off These Corruptions

The first set of attributes, which we are to remove from our persons, reminds us of storybook villains.

Bitterness eats us like spiritual cancer, doesn’t it? We harden our hearts towards one another, and over time our unresolved conflicts and untreated wounds result in irreconcilable differences. Bitterness traps our hearts in quicksand which swallows up our joy of living and stains our relationships.

The next two words—wrath and anger—seem synonymous.

The first (wrath in the ESV) is thumos in the Greek and only appears a handful of times. In Acts 19.25, a crowd in Ephesus became enraged (thumos), and the Nazareth Jews were filled with wrath (thumos) when Jesus contrasted their unbelief with the faith of Gentiles (Luke 4.28).

The second word (anger in the ESV) is orgē in the Greek and is translated variously “wrath” and “anger” in different verses. Jesus displayed this anger in Mark 3.5, as he saw the hardness of the Jewish leaders’ hearts towards a man with a withered hand. Orgē is often used for the “wrath of God.” In the context of these two verses in Ephesians 4, this has to do with wrath and anger we have towards one another.

Interestingly, Paul already dealt with anger just a few verses prior in Ephesians 4.26, “Be angry and do not sin.” He used the verb form of orgē, orgizō. Like we observed when we examined that verse, anger is not necessarily a sin in itself, but it can quickly lead to sin, and it becomes sin when we let it fester and grow.

Clamor has to do with loud cries—a high volume of sound. Hebrews 5.7 uses this same word saying that Jesus used “loud cries and tears” in crying out to the Father. In Acts 23.9 a great clamor arose among a crowd of Jews as they argued with one another. What kind of clamor does Paul address here? We should not be yelling at one another! We should not be contending, fighting, arguing with one another. We all know that guy or that gal who is always pushing back, raising the temperature, and getting into arguments.

Slander is the Greek word blasphēmia, from which we get “to blaspheme” and “blasphemy.” It means to speak against someone. Why would we speak against one another? Why would we tear down a brother’s or sister’s good name and cultivate mistrust and suspicion? Slander does that. Even if elements of truth exist in the slander, it leans hard on negative characteristics, so a hearer walks away upset and disgusted at the slanderer’s target.

Finally, we are to put away all malice. This word is variously translated “wickedness,” “trouble,” “evil,” and “malice.” When you intend evil towards someone, when you devise wickedness in your heart toward someone, you act maliciously. You intend for someone to fret, to fail, to fall.

Put On These Graces

It would be wonderful if none of us harbored any bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, or malice toward another. Every man, in his flesh, will act this way at times. It takes the grace and power of God to eliminate these corruptions from our lives and to cultivate mercy and grace in our hearts.

Therefore, by the power of Christ and his Holy Spirit, we should replace those evil things with:

Kindness! For the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy peace, patience, kindness… Love is patient; love is kind. If God is kind to the ungrateful and to the evil (Luke 6.35), how much more should we, being listed among the evil, be kind to our neighbors and our brethren?

And we are to be tenderhearted. First Peter 3.8 also uses this word: tender heart. We should be sensitive to the troubles of our brethren, weep with them when they weep, and rejoice with them when they rejoice. Help them when they hurt.

Forgiveness! We should forgive each other as God has forgiven us, and that’s a high calling! Here, God teaches us how to overcome bitterness. Why do we think we will lose when we forgive someone of an offence? Don’t we, though? We think we will lose power, our right to retaliate. Satan is selling his lies again. In fact, we will lose heartache and the bitterness of soul that eats away at us. We will lose the desire for retaliation. If we let go of the offense, we may gain a fast friendship. How fully has God forgiven us when we asked? Has he not given us everything we’ve asked for? How can we still harbor resentment and evil thoughts towards our brethren?

As we complete this short list of things to take off and put on, I hope we can see the secrets Paul reveals to show us how to enjoy healthy and holy relationships with our brethren. He lights the path of peace; we just need to trust and obey! God has promised awesome rewards down this road.